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Over Korean charcoal grill dinner to celebrate the New Year, a friend who was born the exact same day as I was asked me: when do you plan to get married?
Much to her surprise (and the surprise of my colleagues who are all in their mid 20's), my answer was: after 50.
Most people are comfortable in their own skin only until they reach 50s. Only then is marriage stripped of the extraneous, such as wearing the white wedding dress and being a princess for one day (You'd be surprised the number of women who get married for this reason!), having children, or having someone else paying the shopping bills......(For men the list may be different.) Getting married when both are after 50 is simply for companionship.
I hope I am the following kind of person when I am 50:
1. Physically: Fit and know how to dress with style to express oneself, not chasing after fashion blindly.
2. Mentally: Curious about the world and all its variety, but pursuing wisdom rather than mere knowledge.
3. Psychologically: Calm that comes from being assured of who I am and to whom I belong.
4. Socially: Gracious in love, warm and encouraging yet not possessive or overbearing, especially towards young people.
5. Spiritually: Quiet trust demonstrated through faithfulness in serving and the willingness to take risks and step out in faith.
6. Financially: Enjoy work that puts my talents to good use, but having enough saved so that I no longer need to work for a living.
In short, I still want to be attractive when I am 50, but with the enduring beauty that contrasts with the mostly external beauty of youth. I am fortunate that I have indeed met a few older women with the qualities above, so I know it is not merely an ideal, but an aspiration.
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